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5 Reasons why you should not join Toastmasters

During a Toastmaster year we have an average of 80 new guests visiting our club meetings and we end up by having around 8 new members out of them.

This is quite surprising isn’t it? We, the Toastmasters members have so many reasons why we are here however when it comes to attracting new people it seems it is a real challenge!

Let’s try to understand which are the most common reasons why our visitors don’t become regular members and how we can look at these reasons from different perspective:

1. Public speaking like acting on the stage without any specific reason? This is not for me!

We perfectly understand that majority of us don’t have as a goal becoming a public speaker such as a TV shows presenter, a politician or a spokesperson for an organization. In Toastmasters however we have the flexibility to adapt the speech topic and content to the professional or personal need of a speaker. We can have technical presentations to practice for an actual presentation that will then be delivered in real-life at work, a sales-speech to test its efficiency or even a self-presentation in preparation for an important interview.

2. In my job communication skills are not that important

Unless you are working as a guardian in a museum that is never visited by anyone and you have no contact with any human being your job does require communication skills! You interact with people at any time, you need to be able to sell yourself during an interview process, then you need to know how to present your achievements to your manager and you might even interact with clients that lost their patience, are angry or frustrated and you need to be capable of handling situations by speaking. Especially in customer-centric jobs communication is everything!

3. The meeting is too long

Indeed two hours and half are long but the meeting is interactive, with variety of roles and activities and once you get involved in the meeting itself by taking a role, the time simply flies. These two hours are nourishing your skills, increasing your knowledge and it’s the right way towards progress in your better communication competency.

4. It takes too much of my free time to prepare

If you didn’t find out by now, nothing is for free in this life. Greatest achievements require hard work, commitment and motivation so if you are looking for only enjoying the life by doing nothing it might be that Toastmasters is indeed not the right place for you. For all the rest who know how to prioritize the important things in life, Toastmasters helps not only improve communication skills but also leadership, time management and organizational skills. You can become an expert in managing stressful situations by keeping yourself busy, engaged and learning by doing!

5. The roles and meeting itself is unreal – this is not how it happens in real life

In life we don’t have this chance indeed of ‘testing’ the audience, of giving a presentation where people will then provide constructive feedback and you can redo the project with the suggestions incorporated. Toastmasters offers a safe environment where even the most introvert person can feel comfortable. We  believe in providing support and feedback to build a person’s already existing skills. We are a group of friends rather than competitors and we all have a common goal: to grow! Then we apply all the lessons we learn in real life such as not using fillers when giving a presentation, have a short concise and precise message, have a good structure.

There are many other reasons someone can call out on why not to join Toastmasters however it’s worth thinking: are these reasons or rather excuses?

Ioana Florentina Pop, VP PR

An invitation that I had to finally accept

25th of June 2013… A sunny and hot summer day just perfect to leave your work and go for an ice-cream or enjoy a long walk in the park as the second day of the week just finished.

Unless,  you have an invitation that you cannot refuse again!

You cannot refuse it because you were invited over and over week after week to join something called ‘Toastmasters meeting’ and for few months you managed to find reasons why not to go such as:

    – I will change job, I’m quite stressed with the handover
    – I gave my resignation, I have no time
    – I have a new job, I’m under pressure
    – I’m still in probation period
    – The location is quite far, I cannot make it…

 

Until that day of 25th of June when ashamed of how many reasons I could give to my very dedicated French teacher that helped me polish my language skills for so long, and not being able to say it’s far away as the meeting was going to be in the very same building I was working in, I accepted to go for it!

Obviously even before attending I had my mind set:

I am totally not the kind that likes public gatherings, totally not the type that likes to play some role in front of people and I’m quite a busy person, I have no time to do something else.

Carefully I also estimated that I will be leaving early pretending that I have some other important meeting to attend having a déjà-vu of how the meeting will be, full of those soft-skills training exercises where you pretend to be the president that just won the elections and has to thank the audience or convince them to vote for you again next time. You know what? I’ve been there few times (mandatory company training!) and it was boring and useless.

I can remember just like it was yesterday how from the very first minute I arrived there the idea of Toastmasters that I had set in my mind was ruined.

I knew one single person in that room however in few minutes each of the participants came to introduce themselves in such a friendly manner that I couldn’t believe how a room of strangers can become a room of acquaintances! The meeting started easy, entertaining I would say and apart from the awkward clapping before and after each role and hand-shaking on arrival and departures on and from the stage the content of the meeting was a blast.

It’s interesting how first meeting with a speech in Toastmasters can have such an impact! I can remember Anna having her speech about blood donation and my auto-pilot conclusion that ‘she must be a very experienced and great speaker‘! Then my determination level boosting when I heard Florentin with his strange Romanian accent (like mine!!!) giving an amazing presentation!

I  was amazed, I was impressed and hours after the meeting I was still trying to absorb what happened in the two and half hours.  It took me less than a day to say ‘Yes, I can and Yes, I want!’ and two weeks after I was already a member of the club.

Looking back at the entire journey, I can only say how childish I was refusing over and over my teacher’s invitation to join a meeting and how right he was saying that he sees me good for it! Now I know to leave my opinions out when I don’t have sufficient information and yet I perfectly understand all my friends that give me reasons after reasons why they cannot join. I’ve been there, I’ve done that!

As I like to believe things happen when they need to happen and soon, I’ll be celebrating 100 meetings since I’ve joined the Club and hopefully other hundreds in the future!

What about your first meeting with Brno Business Toastmasters club? Are you ready to share it with us?

Ioana Pop